The holidays are supposed to be a time of happiness, but for those struggling with infertility it can evoke mixed emotions. The reproductive specialists at Sher Fertility Institute New York in Manhattan share tips to survive the holidays while trying to conceive.

Easier said than done, we know, but try not to stress about the upcoming festivities. Your friends and family may not know exactly what you are going through, but their intentions are likely good.

If you are attending family get togethers, prepare for the possibility of nosy questions from relatives or the feeling of jealousy when you encounter new babies and children. Consider coming up with a set of responses that you and your partner agree on, so you are prepared when you are asked about your intentions to grow your family. If you decide to let them in on your fertility journey, agree on how much detail you are willing to divulge. Or you can come up with a generic response, such as “We are enjoying this time to ourselves right now,” or “When the timing is right, we will know.” You may also consider a signal or code word to share if you feel you need to go home early.

If you really want to avoid the prying questions and seeing lots of children, skip the parties all together, or be selective. Choose to attend the low-key events without kids present, or those with only close family members who may be more sensitive to your infertility struggles.

If you are traveling this holiday season during fertility treatments, be sure to check with your fertility doctor and medical team to ensure you aren’t missing or delaying critical appointments. Also be sure to have enough fertility medications with you in case your travel plans are unexpectedly prolonged. If your fertile window happens to fall when you are staying with relatives, you may want to consider staying at a hotel for more privacy.

Most importantly, stay healthy! If you need any vaccines, such as the flu vaccine, get them ahead of time so you are immune before your travels. Avoid drinking, smoking, and overeating if possible! If you can sneak in some exercise sessions or relaxing moments to de-stress, that would be ideal.

You may not have that bundle of joy yet, but with the help of our experienced fertility doctors at Sher Fertility Institute New York, you may have one by next holiday season! Our medical team wishes you and your family a happy and healthy holiday!